A Caregiver's Journey

Welcome to my Journey

These are my personal stories, lessons, and learnings that guided me through my father’s end-of-life journey.

For People and For Pets

By Candice Smith | February 11, 2019

Recently my friend had to put her dog to sleep.  Cancer had taken over poor Rosie’s body and she was in pain; she was suffering and looked to the woman she loved most to help her.  And my friend did.…

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Shielding Children From Your Grief

By Candice Smith | February 4, 2019

When I sat down this morning to read the news my feed included an advice column from syndicated writer Carolyn Hax with the title “Should children be shielded from their parents’ grief?”.  A “Grieving Mommy” was seeking guidance on how…

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Nothing Prepares You

By Candice Smith | January 28, 2019

There are defining moments whose anniversaries give us, as a society or culture, pause to reflect, remember or for future generations to learn about from those who were there that day. Such things bring us closer together as a community.…

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I Was There When Moments

By Candice Smith | January 21, 2019

It seems like every other day there is some historic event that conjures memories. Like the defining date of my generation, 9/11.  Each year I remember precisely where I was when the world changed. It’s one of those moments that…

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Your “In-Loving Memory” Reminds Me of My Loss

By Candice Smith | January 14, 2019

It used to be that I took note of the name and notation about the life of whomever was commemorated in the plaque affixed to the bench where I sat or at the base of a tree that caught my…

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Understanding the Motivation Behind Decisions

By Candice Smith | January 7, 2019

When my Dad was sick one of his biggest fears was to lose the ability to make decisions for himself. It’s a fear that we all have and leads us to completing an Advance Directives, setting up our will, and…

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The Fear of Being Wrong

By Candice Smith | December 31, 2018

The fear of being wrong, or not doing something right, can be debilitating.  Especially when the decision impacts life and death. In my opinion, this explains why so many people desire to be told what to do.  It also leads…

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Share More, Share Deeper

By Candice Smith | December 24, 2018

In my previous blog, I ended with the suggestion that through transparency you and your loved ones will be empowered to share more and to share deeply. By this I mean that when you realize the value of making something…

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Transparency

By Candice Smith | December 17, 2018

Overwhelm, lack of control, and an unfamiliarity with the subject matter and “language” of end-of-life care breeds insecurity and mistrust. How can I possibly do what’s right when I don’t have a clue what’s happening? How do I know that’s…

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The Care Team

By Candice Smith | December 10, 2018

In her book Eldercare 101, my friend Mary Jo Saavedra encourages families to create an “Aging Life Care Team”.  This team consists of an assortment of individuals with the skills often called on when caring for a senior.  Not surprising,…

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